Tapping has saved my sanity through work crises, romantic disappointments, getting sober, and learning how to tolerate feeling happy.
I know people who have successfully used tapping through disordered eating, financial challenges, healing from trauma, infertility, preparing for marriage, getting ready to give keynote speeches, and embarking on new dating opportunities.
Here’s a recent example of how I’ve used tapping to get through a tough situation. Anytime I’m doing client work, I think to myself, “Don’t delete the website.” It’s a ridiculous thing to think. I’m not going to delete the website. It’s literally my job to build websites and to keep them un-deleted. Last Thursday though, I thought I deleted a website.
Abraham-Hicks says that worrying is like praying for something you don’t want to happen, to happen.
Life happens, yes. And also, law of attraction is real! Geez louise, last Thursday felt like a Bad Day. I’ll say this here so you don’t get as stressed out as I did during that terrible experience: I didn’t actually delete the website, there was a problem with the hosting company, I’m good at my job and everything worked out by 10:30pm.
In the midst of my personal work hell-scape, I did a lot of things right. I asked for help from trusted advisors, I worked tirelessly to get things back online for my client, and in between phone calls, I tapped.
Tapping, also know as the Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT, is a completely painless and massively effective process that helps the nervous system chill out. Tapping communicates with the amygdala portion of the brain, which impacts emotion, memory, and survival.
Tapping gives us more options to navigate challenging situations besides fight or flight.
The format for tapping is simple: you gently tap your fingers on a series of acupressure points following the body’s meridian system while speaking out loud about the problem first and the solution second. A common phrase during tapping might be:
“Even though I feel all this fear, I totally and completely love and accept myself.”
Before starting, it’s important to rank the intensity of your MPI, or most pressing issue, on a scale of 1 – 10. You’ll do this again after completing a few rounds of tapping. It’s important to state this number before and after tapping so you can acknowledge the results of this process and be more likely to use this tool again in the future, because it works!
I’m going to record some guided tapping videos soon!
In the meantime, there are thousands of free tapping videos on YouTube. Here’s one of my favorite teachers, Gabby Bernstein, offering a tapping session on the topic of physical pain. You can change the word “pain” to fear, shame, disappointment, or anything else you’re working with right now.
If you’d like more information on tapping, these books are a good place to start:
Judgment Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living A Better Life by Gabrielle Bernstein — If you get the audiobook version, you’ll be led through the tapping exercises by Gabby herself.